My Relationship Rocks

It is the best thing in my life

Photo by Anna Hecker on Unsplash

People often comment on my relationship:

“You two are so good together”;

“You look so happy”;

“You have a special connection”;

“Your relationship looks so beautiful and amazing.”

People we know only a little, and close friends and family.

Our relationship looks amazing because it is amazing. When other people talk about their relationship being hard work, or a chore, or something that is a struggle, I cannot agree with them.

My relationship is anything but a chore or hard work. It is easy. It’s like a wonderful, peaceful, and relaxing holiday full of beauty and wonder.

It is the best thing in my life.

Our relationship is wonderful and therefore life is wonderful. We love spending time together.

Contrary to popular belief a difficult relationship does not equal a passionate and fulfilled relationship. In my experience, the best relationships are the ones that fit right and don’t take enormous amounts of effort.

1. We don’t work on our relationship constantly, we work on ourselves:

I have often heard that relationships are hard work and you need to put in the effort to make things work. But I don’t agree with that statement.

You also need to work on yourself in order to have a fulfilling relationship. I have been to therapy and I continue to go to sort my shit out. I don’t rely on my partner to fix me or make everything better.

My partner and I work hard on ourselves and the relationships part comes naturally. It is not hard work, because we don’t expect the relationship to fix our issues.

2. I feel safe:

I feel safe in my relationship, emotionally safe. Physically too, of course. I am never concerned that my partner will belittle me, tease me or mock me.

Neither do we ever manipulate or attempt to control each other. Our relationships is a safe place. We both deal with our emotions and never project unwanted feelings onto each other.

We always have each other’s backs.

3. We have similar interests:

We love doing things together. We love cycling, running and hiking. We also both love cooking and often cook meals together.

Choosing what to do on the weekend is easy. We both love being outdoors and eating good food. We love the many of the same things.

4. Its easy:

The best part of my relationship is its ease. It’s not hard to to figure things out together. When we first moved into (after three months of dating) we didn’t fight. We did not struggle to get along and live together.

We just slipped into each other lives, like a snug glove.

We never have to guess what the other is thinking. We say it. It’s not a game of tug and war.

We don’t bicker or keep score.

I love my parter. I cannot be cruel and unkind him. It’s impossible.

My relationships rocks.

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I am a Lawyer, Writer, Reader and Traveller. From Johannesburg, South Africa. I am writing to find my voice. Fortune favours the brave.

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