Why Do Most Women Have Timelines But Men Don’t?

Women need to forgo the whole timeline thing

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A timeline is a plan for your life. An idea of when you want certain things in your life. More specifically, when a woman is concerned, a timeline for marriage and babies.

They are very common among women. Too common. And almost non-existent for men.

For most women a timeline will be something like this:

Marriage at 25, babies at 27 and done with babies by 30.

The age will vary depending on the woman. Some may want them a year or two later or earlier. The timeline usually starts sometime in the 20s and is concluded somewhere in the early 30s. Most women have one.

Most men do not. I have lost count of the number of times I have heard the timeline coming forth from a woman’s mouth. And I have also lost count of the number of times I have been asked for my timeline.

It is assumed.

Well, of course, you are a woman, you should have a timeline. And even more so if you are in a relationship. Well, then you definitely have one. You should probably have one before you enter a relationship but you will certainly have one when in a relationship. Most likely after the first date. Then the timeline is formed.

If you don’t have a timeline are you a real woman?

And if you are in a relationship and you are not putting pressure on your partner to put a ring on it, then you are definitely not a real woman. If you are not thinking of babies and marriage all the time, who are you?

The horror: a woman without a timeline! That sounds like the new Stephen King Novel.

The Woman Who Had No Timeline.

What About The Man?!

Do men have timelines:

“no, never.”

This was the answer I received when I asked my partner whether he and his friends discussed when they wanted kids and marriage. Never. They don’t discuss it. They must occasionally. Every now and then surely? Because marriage and babies are not a one-sided thing. They require 2 people to make the union and to have the baby. So why do women only seem to have the plan for it? Why do women have timelines but men do not?

Is it biology? Or society’s pressure?

Call me crazy, but I think it is crazy that a woman can have a timeline for marriage and babies before she even meets a man with whom she wants those things.

What about other things?!

Men have timelines for starting companies, making their fortune, inventing the next big thing, pursuing masters, and a Phd.

“When do you want to get married and have children?” How often do men say these things?

When do we hear a woman say, I want to own my first company by the age of 30? Or I want to write that best selling novel by age 35? Or I want to create a product that changes the world or I want to invent that vaccine by the age of 45.

Well these things are great too, aren’t they? Why do we affix dates for marriage for babies and make them a priority but forget about ourselves in the process? We are not made for one thing, we are made for so much more.

If women must have a timeline for marriage babies then they should include in that timelines other things. Other achievements that are worthy of praise.

“Gender matters everywhere in the world. And I would like today to ask we should begin to dream about and plan for a different world. A fairer world. A would of happier men and happier women who are truer to themselves.” — We should all be feminists- Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

I am a Lawyer, Writer, Reader and Traveller. From Johannesburg, South Africa. I am writing to find my voice. Fortune favours the brave.

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